Some Things Don’t Just Fade
Jay D. Fellers, a licensed clinical social worker with more than 30 years of experience, works with people who’ve gone through things they didn’t always have the tools—or support—to deal with at the time. Trauma is the word, yes. But what matters more is what it feels like now.
And if you’re reading this, maybe it hasn’t really gone away.
It’s Not Always Obvious
A lot of people don’t come to therapy saying, “I’ve been through trauma.” They say things like:
- “I can’t relax, even when I try.”
- “I don’t feel like myself.”
- “I thought I was over it, but it keeps showing up.”
Some had rough childhoods. Some were in situations they didn’t have language for at the time. Some are dealing with PTSD, but quietly—internally—without anyone else knowing. It doesn’t have to be a single event. Sometimes it’s years of feeling unsafe. Or unseen.
Jay works with clients dealing with childhood trauma, abuse, loss, accidents, and the emotional leftovers that don’t fit neatly into any category.
There’s a Window of Healing
One thing many people don’t realize is how much timing can affect the healing process.
When someone starts therapy within a month of a traumatic event, it often only takes 4–6 sessions to process—because the brain hasn’t yet fully consolidated the memory. But after that window, healing can take longer—often 20–30 sessions—because the trauma becomes more deeply embedded in the nervous system.
That’s why early support can be so impactful. And it’s also why many people don’t seek help right away: most try to avoid or minimize the trauma for as long as they can. But once something is surfacing, it's usually a sign that it's time.
These insights come from Jay’s experience through EMDR-HAP (Humanitarian Assistance Program) and his leadership in the Denver chapter of the Trauma Recovery Network, which he co-founded. Through this work, Jay has helped survivors of the Aurora Theater Shooting, the Arapahoe High School and STEM School shootings, and, more recently, teens who witnessed a tragic accidental death at a track meet. These real-world experiences have shaped a grounded, compassionate understanding of how trauma shows up—and how it can be gently worked through.
What Therapy Looks Like Here
There’s no pressure to go deep before you’re ready. Sessions move at your pace. Sometimes, it’s just talking. Other times, it might involve EMDR, a therapy approach that helps people process trauma without needing to relive every detail aloud.
It’s not about erasing anything. It’s about softening the edges. Giving your mind and body permission to let go of the emergency that already passed.
People work on:
- Sleeping again without jolting awake
- Feeling less anxious in “safe” situations
- Understanding why relationships feel hard
- Learning how to be in the present without being dragged back
Jay’s approach is steady. No gimmicks. Just space. And patience.
Sessions In-Person or Online
Therapy is offered in-person in Greenwood Village, or online for clients across Denver and the surrounding areas. However you meet, the tone is the same: calm, private, and without judgment.
You don’t need the right words. Just a willingness to start.
You’ve Already Carried Enough
Whatever it was—whatever it still is—it shaped you. That’s true. But it doesn’t have to keep running the show. You don’t have to live in survival mode forever.
If something’s rising to the surface, it might be time to talk. Or sit with it in a new way.
You can call Jay D. Fellers at (303) 947-4071 to set up a session or just ask a few questions. There’s no rush. But there is support, if you want it.